I wouldn't say that I'm 3 days sober. In 3 days without. I've been sober before and to me it's a way of life and a behavior. In theory its being recovered from a sick way o thinking and living to where you actually could drink or use like the average guy...bit you don't.
If I had to say exactly when I lost my sobriety, I would guess it was when I got involved with my wife and began engaging in behaviors that were old patterns and sick...well before I ever started using again.
I spent $$$, I overate, I got involved in a toxic relationship and drifted from behaviors I had practiced when I was recovered. Using came much later.
I am emotional and unsure for sure, but Im insightful and somewhat clear.