My ABF wanted to know why I left him now, when things were better.... it's because they weren't. He got a DUI, started binging, stopped binging when I said I wasn't willing to live with him as an active alcoholic. Then we had ~ 6 honeymoon weeks. Until he lied, endangered my son, and reneged on a promise, again, all at once.
Not drinking does not equal sobriety. Not drinking because of your codie spouse is not recovery.
I have to let go of the fear of the unknown. Of not defining myself in relationship to anyone except God.
I understand your situation ~ no advice, just a hand to hold.
- Sylvie