Welcome back Michigangirl
It's my experience that people without our problem can sometime have no idea of how it works.
They assume it's like it is for them...drink occasionally, drink one or two and then stop...no obsessions, no compulsions...
It sounds like your husband wants you to be a normal drinker....and I'm sorry, but you're not.
This is your life, your problem and your recovery.
If you've decided abstinence is best for you then commit yourself to that....I'd hope that your husband wants the best for you and he will come around
You'll always find a lot of support here, as you know
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