Hello and welcome to SR,
I would have to agree that al-anon or nar-anon is full of people who can better help you. I have no experience in watching a loved one suffer from the disease of addiction, however, I know what it's like to make your family suffer. I couldn't quit for them, no matter how hard they tried. Only when I was ready. Keep posting and check out the friends and family forums here.
Sherry