Originally Posted by
CarolD 
I sure hope this will be your time for lasting sobreity ...
I find this useful for emotional balance
The Serenity Prayer
.God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
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Absolutely correct.
I focus on what I can't control and beat myself up when I fail at controlling it.