My exabf's parents were the same way. It didn't seem to matter, all the violent incidences where he broke things. Or how often he'd binge drink.
Their favorite phrase has always been: "He was drinking a little too much for a while, but he's better now."
Cuz my ex was always able to convince them that OMG, I got out of control temporarily, but now I'm reigning myself back in. I'm only going to drink on the weekends now (or whatever meaningless vow would placate them.)
It's hard when you're the only person who seems able or courageous enough or close enough and affected enough by the situation to face reality. It's a lonely place to be.
Originally Posted by
BobbyJ 
I lost my in-laws, brother/sister in-laws...And we are not even divorced yet.
At first I was mad & very sad, but then I learned I cant be mad at them.
I feel sad for them, that they have not taken the time to learn what
alcoholism is and they are major enablers to my husband...
They say he just drinks too much, but he is not an alcoholic..
They have no clue of what alcoholism is all about...
All they have ever seen is the guy who sits at the kitchen counter
and has a nice pretty glass filled with whiskey and topped off with ice.
And the same applies with most of our friends.
And it applied to me when I first met him, I also thought is was just a cocktail..
15 Years later....My eyes are open and my life is un-manageable...
Dont be mad at your parents, they are just not educated in alcoholism.
Do what is right for you...