Now I think that no matter what happens with court, until HE decides to get help no one forcing it (not even the court) will matter.
Yes, sadly, this is true. I did not seek help, it came to me....I decided to go with it.
Given the option of saving AH's a$$ or mine, I choose mine.
*****!
But he made choices and it's not my job to protect him from the natural consequences of his behavior.
No, it is not your job.
Excellent!
Beth