Wanttobehealthy,
I hate it when they all circle and attack. sometimes they have good advice, but when it is given with such lack of tact and compassion, it just adds to your stress. It was upsetting to read that thread, for it almost seemed like they were looking for things to find wrong with everything you said. so sorry that happened to you. no one is perfect, and some who try to appear that way usually eventually show them selves to be struggling as much as those they judge- i have learned over time here.
use the ignore button for a while, and don't worry about defending yourself to those who wont really "hear" you. we all deserve to be heard, even if we are not doing what others may think is healthy. that is what helps me the most. compassion. and kind honesty. the nasty stuff makes me just go back into a shell, and fear sharing, which keeps me stuck.
hugs,
chicory