Originally Posted by
LaTeeDa 
In my world, detaching with love includes respecting another person's choices, whether I agree with them or not. There is a big difference between compassion and pity.
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I agree and I have compassion, not pity. Seems to me that you are judging my choice to have compassion for him, no?
I didn't say I didn't respect his chocies. I neither respect nor don't respect his choices. I see him throwing away things he's worked hard for and don't see that as a choice he is making but rather a result of addiction. I wouldn't want to be battling the addiction he is and I have compassion for all that it is taking from him. Pity would be me continuing to try and fix him or save him and I am doing neither.