cheyenne0225

Somebody told me about this web site and told me I might want to check into it to see what kind of help I could get from everybody. So here is my story...
I'm 23 years old with a 6 week old daughter. Her father (my boyfriend) and I have been together for 7 years off and on. For the past 7 years we have been fighting over his drug use. I have always said that i'm sick of the drugs and alcohol but I have never done anything to help him stop using. Since our daughter has been born it has been like living in hell. We fight all the time over his problem and just last week it got even worse. My boyfriend has been on probation for almost 6 months now and they decided to drug test him. The drug test came back dirty (no surprise to me), but not for what I thought he was doing. It came back with THC (weed) and cocaine. So now he is facing jail time or more probation. The only problem with this is if he does the jail time he will walk away a free man and will never learn his leason. In my book 25 days behind bars is not going to teach him anything or help him in anyway. As soon as he gets out he'll be back to his old tricks again. If he does more probation all they are going to do is just drug test him once in a while (like they are doing now) and he'll just have to pay more fines. NO CLASS TO GET HIM HELP WITH HIS PROBLEM! I would think that the state would want to help him get better so that he doesn't screw up again rather then just slaping him on the hand and telling him..."No, that was a bad boy, don't do it again". This morning when I was taking him to work he asked me to call a substance abuse counseling center to see if I could get him in to start taking classes. So I did and got him an appointment for tomarrow, but when I called him at work to tell him one of his co-workers heard and started to make fun of him (this co-worker happens to be somebody he use to party with before I put a stop to his friends coming over). Anyway, my b/f called me back and told me that I need to cancel the appointment and try to find a DUI class for him to take instead so that way he can get his drivers licence back. How can I make him realize that he needs to get more help other then just a DUI class that is going to be only a couple of hours one night? Also how do I get him to realize that if he decides to do the time in jail (25 days) that he is going to lose his job and there is no way that I am going to be able to pay rent, day care, food, gas and baby supplies on my $120 a week pay check.
Does he not see what the drugs are doing to his life and to our daughter's life? My life I'm not to worried about anymore, but my daughter has the right to grow up with her Daddy around everyday and not have to deal with the drugs, alcohol and fighting that has been going on. I don't want my daughter to grow up saying that her daddy is in jail because of drugs or God for bid that her Daddy died from an overdose.
Help what should I do?
Rachel