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Old 04-24-2011, 11:16 PM
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Originally Posted by Decahedron View Post
I'm with Sandra on this one, doing what you're not supposed to be doing is what got you in trouble in the 1st place. As time passes, things will get better, you'll get your license back; if he is mad for not being able to get a ride, now, just think of how happy he'll be when you're able to do it legally again :-) right now your recovery is more important than him getting an easy ride. So he has to work a little bit harder. That's okay, he'll be doing it for you, and that should make you both feel good. Honesty is a big part recovery; honesty with yourself includes honesty with the law. Be happy that you have a car and maybe find somebody else, it can drive you in your car, it will be like you're being chauffeured around, how nice!
Thank you Dec, maybe my post was unclear but my alcoholic bf is the one without the license. I am trying to learn to set boundaries so that I can protect myself, my sanity and stop enabling him. And just to add, doing things for the other person is what got ME into trouble... forgetting how to take care of MYSELF!! And LOL to the chauffer part... im sure he just LOVES to be driven around everywhere! (not really), I know he sees it as a burden. its all part of the sickness, the remorse, the guilt
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