Once you start the "detachment" process, it's rather liberating. I just decided to do it last week, and I've actually had a fairly normal week, and weekend. Getting back to my hobbies, and not looking in disgust at my husband, and hoping he'll fall down the stairs.
I'm not diluting bottles of London Dry Gin anymore, and try not to take his inventory. Working the first step,....you have to "start" somewhere. Look after and focus on yourself!
Enid