I wish I was able to enforce my boundaries without engaging.
My boundary is that if I think she is drinking (and they are pretty good at hiding it even when all instincts say they are) me and the girls feel uncomfortable and will go back to our other house.
The difficulty is, to enforce that boundary one must concern ones-self with whether they have or haven't been drinking, and that is the rub. I don't want to give a flying cr*p whether or not she has, and be looking for the signs and smells but it is unavoidable when children and access are involved.
Anyway, I do enforce my boundary, but would like to do with less 'engagement!'
Thanks for listening