Thanks for the replies. DD is 7 (almost); I ultimately did decide to let her stay over tonight. The reason I sound skeptical about XAH's chances for real recovery and sobriety is that I have seem him at this place many, many times before--i.e., has some sober time under his belt and is functioning OK, for now. But he's never worked a program in earnest, and he's always relapsed, so at this point I do pretty much feel nothing changes if nothing changes. However, I do feel that my daughter is safe tonight, and she was excited about it, so I think for her it is a good thing that she will have this night with her dad. If the cycle continues as per usual, it may be the only longer contact she gets with him for a while.