I agree with the other posters here - this is quacking, and he is trying to define your reality and your needs and how your life should look. Imagine where he'd be if only he'd invest that energy into his own life?!
I, too, have moments of serenity. It's not all the time, though. It's something I strive for. And I have also heard the very things you describe here...and I think its BS. Here's one to throw back at him the next time he starts quacking like this: Thanks but I don't need you to take my moral inventory. If he is in any kind of recovery, he'll know what that means.
Don't let this man define you, BobbyJ.