Originally Posted by
drowninginair 
thanks i still feel like if i didnt always "bother" him and "call" him and try to keep him away from drinking and kept my mouth shut like some big freaken idiot this would not have happened.
...it is not your fault that he is this way. It is entirely his issue...
Many of us early on in our journey wonder whether we did something to cause or increase drinking related behaviour in our loved one.
We invariably learn that it is not the case at all.
Take care..
VJ