I love these shifts in perspective that we get the more we learn about ourselves and the families we came from. For me, changing how I see my family and myself in relation to them has been disturbing, painful, difficult and oddly liberating! I've found that understanding can bring compassion and patience with the shift in my perceptions of motivations behind actions. Unacceptable behaviour is still unacceptable but seeing where it comes from somehow makes is a little less...I want to say personal but its not really what I mean....maybe less about me and more about them and their life experience?
Anyway, thanks for sharing!