Tbeit....thanks. I appreciate what you're saying. I know this site is apparently to help the parents and family members of addicts. I guess I still want to know what I can do to help my son. I know he has to choose not to use. Just, so many here have advised that the only thing to do is tell him to leave and render him homeless. I don't believe that really helps. It just makes people use more and continue the cycle.
I'm a little gun shy of alanon is their take is to just tell me to throw him out too.
I know, deep down, there is little I can do. I can give him less money for bus fare and make him walk, maybe next month a bus pass. the fact is, that he'll just wind up panhandling and dealing to get money, especially since they won't let him work. I'm mad the program doesn't even address the issue of money management with him and help him with that. It's all on me to address the issues.