Absolutely, wanttobe. I can understand what you are saying. For me, it was a matter of "he's my husband" and "we can do anything together" that moved me out here where his family lives, away from mine.
Exactly-- that's the collaborative approach I went into marriage with -- that was my thinking too..
But we were married and supposed to make sacrifices for each other.
Right... I thought that too... and like you I was the only one willing to do that. The whole "give an inch take a mile" adage pretty much sums up our marriage... I give an inch he takes as much as he can ....
The problem in my marriage turned out to be that the only one willing to sacrifice was ME.
Exactly. And I stupidly kept/keep thinking that this will change. Keep wanting to give him another chance... Waiting for a different result. Stupid.
I don't know if you can relate to me, but I can completely relate to the crossroads in which you stand. I know it's hard.
I can relate to all that you said COMPLETELY! Thanks so much for your post- It's appreciated more than you know.