Wish I could help but I thought the same thing about tons of AA meetings vs. only a handful of alanon meetings (and I live in a very populated area). There is really only one that fits in with my day.
I think someone on here was having issues finding a meeting too and I believe someone said on here they have chat alanon type meetings or there is a site that does. It was just in the last few days I saw it so maybe look around and see if you find it or maybe that same person will see your request here.
How rude of that person to try to force you to lead! That would not make me feel comfortable at all! If you end up going back there hold your ground and just keep saying no... you have every right to!
Good luck! I know how much I am getting out of Alanon and I sure hope you are able to reconnect with a group soon.