As a recovering alcoholic, I feel the need to respond to you KittyKitty. In my AA meeting there's a guy who only attends occasionally, and always looks like he's about to fall to pieces. His wife/girlfriend attends the meeting with him and holds his hand. When he shares, she rubs his leg. I struggle with this, because it seems like she's treating him like a little boy. He is not taking responsibility for his own recovery (note: i don't know him and do not KNOW this, but based on what I see, I make this assumption).
I fully believe that unless we own and are responsible for our recovery, then we limit our own growth.