Originally Posted by
Tuffgirl 
alcoholics don't have relationships; they take hostages.
This.
I have a friend at work, a recovering alcoholic (RA), 30+ years sober.
When I was still with XABF, he was constantly reminding me of this.
I needed to hear it from him, an RA, because if he's saying that about the type of person he used to be, it
must be true.
I stuck around for several months after he told me this.
It was hard to let go, and move on.
But when I was ready, I was ready, and there is no way I am going back to that hellish existence. That's not what I want out of my life.
Take your time.
You don't have to decide anything today.
Just remember, the more you learn about it now, the better-informed you'll be when you decide it's time to make a change, and the more likely you'll pick the best solution for you and your life.
Good luck.