WELCOME to SR! It is a wonderful group of people who are dealing with the same thing you are. You seem to have a grip on what you are dealing with so that is a great start. I have learned so much about the disease and how an A acts. It helps to know that it is not me and alot of A's do the same thing.
I find the best part is learning to work on myself and not focus on the A (it never did any good anyways). It was like
and all I got was a headache.
Remember..
You did not cause it
You can not control it
and I think the last one is You can not cure it.
Keep posting, it really helps!!
I am still learning, if the above is wrong, I sure someone will let us know.