I really needed to get comfortable with myself...I'd never done that as an adult and it took some time. I was not at all comfortable with myself or my own company, but I found it got easier the longer I stayed sober.
I guess I spent a lot of time working on filling the void within me I used to fill with alcohol.
For me, I don't think events or activities fill that void, although they help - I think healing did.
I had some counselling to help, and so as to not focus on myself too exclusively I did some work helping others - I think, paradoxically, that was the greatest factor in me getting to know myself
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