Promises
I was reading the 10 things to do with an addict in your family sticky again, and this one caught my eye.
6) Don’t extract promises. A person with an addiction cannot keep promises. This is not because they don’t intend to, but rather because they are powerless to consistently act upon their commitments . Extracting a promise is a waste of time and only serves to increase the anger toward the loved one.
Looking for your $0.02. Should it read instead "a non-recovering person with an addiction cannot keep promises?" I truthfully don't know because at our house, we are too early in recovery for that. I am not talking about extracted promises either. I know now, as an example, RAH will come up to me and promise to take care of something without my asking and it often goes by the wayside (so for now I ignore those promises). Does that change further along in recovery?
Just a thought for the day.