We are apart and I still cant see all of it...
Just living in different houses does not equal getting away from the madness. Having no contact at all for a while is what you need in order to clear your head. I agree that we become used to things that others might find absolutely insane. It's all relative. It's like being grateful that someone doesn't lie 100% of the time, they only lie 50% of the time. While it may be better than it was, it is still far from what is considered acceptable to someone not inside the chaos.