you know when you meet someone in recovery.
I actually don't know-- I don't know what it looks like in real life. My al anon group (there are 2 in my town and the other nearest one is 45 miles away and not an option) is largely beginners so there's a lot of everyone trying to figure it out at the same time.
I guess that's why I am asking what it looks like of people here bc I don't know at all...