After 38+ years of marriage I have kicked my AH out and filed for legal separation. Over the years I have moved to another state and nearly filed for legal separation but always taking the AH back in. For the last 19 years it has been binge drinking twice a year for a week at a stretch followed by repentance and a promise to change. Counselors, emergency room visits, outpatient treatment, etc. No AA.
So he moved down south to be by his brother who has been sober for 25+ years. He started attenting AA meetings regularly. Sounded positive. Then he moved into his own apartment and his brother went on vacation. I talked my AH last night and realized that I am pretty sure he is drinking again. I am so devastated because I thought this time he might have gotten it. I am still continuing on with my plans of legal separation but it is so hard and it hurts so much.
I think I need to get back to Al-anon.