I have done the whole gamut of attempts to "help" my husband see his how problematic his drinking was. I yelled, screamed, cried, was super nice, compassionate, loving... I tried it all. There were times that he even asked me to help... "could you just remind me that I only want to drink 2?"
The problem with all of that is that it puts me smack dab in the middle of his business.
Trust your gut and pay attention to actions. There's no need to call him out... That won't do anything good, for either of you.