Originally Posted by
kittykitty 
After reading all of this, it sounds like even if he comes clean about what he's done, you still aren't going to be able to let go of it. Doesn't sound like there is any trust in this relationship, and without trust and honesty (on BOTH of your parts), a healthy relationship is next to impossible
whoa....i think it's way too soon to make this kind of a judgment/decision.
people's marriages have been in all kinds of shambles, and with rebuilding trust, with honest and gentle discourse, and likely with the assistance of a therapist, they can be put back on track.
terry,
if we were to glance at your husband's step work, it would appear that all is not as it should be. but, again, it's not yours to decide.
you trying to get inside him, and trying to figure out where he derailed, is what us co's do. it is, however, not helpful. making a decision for yourself and your family, based on his behavior, is appropriate.
keep posting, girl. it helps with clarity, and helps to keep you driving in the right direction. we care.