Is it possible you "know" how this is going to play out?Alot of money and effort on your part and very litlle on your husbands?Do you want him to do this because its his issue and you are just tired?Personally, I wonder how marriage couynseling works when one person is in active alcoholism..I know if there are underlying mental health issues they say to work the addiction first..then you can get a clear idea of whats underneath..