Originally Posted by
courageouscrane 
Thanks to all for the words and experience. I guess you are confirming my worst beliefs. This is so hard to go through, and I feel incredibly sad and alone.
Al-Anon can help you with these feelings. This forum also helps. You are not alone...that's the point. You are one of many who have had to make the same sucky decisions. I am right here with you. Divorce papers filled out, feeling pretty lousy, having to come to terms with the fact that I love the potential that he could be, not the mean, nasty, vengeful man he is today. I can't accept that in my life...I deserve better than that.
When I moved out, I told my RAH I was going to find my self-respect. Time to stand up for myself.
This may be an opportunity, a blessing in disguise. Think of all the other great guys out there that you are missing out on because you have settled for this.