I was jealous of my husbands recovery until I started focussing on my own. When I decided to begin filling my life with my own meetings, friends, activities, and start my own healing process, I stopped focussing on my husband for my happiness. Whether they are drinking or not, they cannot make us happy. I am responsible for my own health, happiness, and serenity. It was hard to seperate my life from others, but Al-Anon provided me with direction and tools to heal myself instead of looking to someone else to fix me. Hugs, Magic