Resentments
I just would like to introduce myself to this forum and I have a few questions. This is my first real attempt at getting sober for myself. I have almost two months. I have been mostly reading and not posting on SR for two years.
I say it is my first attempt because actually the times I quit before I just wanted to do it myself and not follow any of the steps of AA. This time I am trying to learn as much as I can and actually follow the steps.
Anyways I am working the 4th step and I was told to list my resentments. My question is that I feel like I am writing stuff just to have a resentment list. My sponser told me that I should list resentments that I had in the past but if I have gotten past those resentments and I don't feel any resentment towards that person why should I put that down. I feel that my 4th step work should be more about my defaults of character which drive my actions.
The people I have hurt the most are my family and I have apologized to them. The main way I can make amends to them is to truly follow the program of AA and show by actions and not words.
As you can see I also need to work on the part of God's will. I tend to overanalyze everything. I read all the information on the thread about AA and the third tradition and learned alot. I apologize if I'm rambling. One thing that has bothered me is in when people say they pray to God about a sober day and that the end of the day they thank him for another sober day. To me if you are doing God's will you don't have to pray about your sobriety.
Anyways I have to get the kids ready for school and would appreciate anyone's response