I think it's good to take stock of where you're at WTBH. It's all part of our awareness.
I think the thing for all of us is that we hit our bottom when we are good and ready. It has taken me 7 years to figure that out... and even though I feel I'm at my bottom, I still have moments of doubt and fear. How I handle them is by remembering the simple facts that I've stated above... I do my best not to muddy the water with all the "what he could be" or "used to be" stories/memories.
It's hard, no doubt. I think we all want to see and hope for the best in our alcoholic loved ones, but the danger is doing so is that we turn a blind eye to things that should not be ignored.