I agree with what Teggie said 100%. You need to communicate and also compromise. Maybe you guys can have designated days. And for him, since he is required to make 90 in 90, can't he go at his lunch? That way you both can get there. Maybe you both can take the kids to the meetings. I know that is frustrating at times. Also, maybe consider starting a new meeting that has babysitting. There is a couple in my Thursday meeting that bring their baby. They switch caring during the meeting. Just some more suggestions.