I can remember my mom used to get so angry with me and my younger brothers when we'd lie about something, even little things that probably shouldn't have mattered. She hates it when people lie to her- I figured out why-- she was married to my A father for 20 years... duh.
Thanks for your posts, dothi and wanttobehealthy. I continually feel that worry/shame when I am in a position of vulnerability. I find myself asking my friend (from original post) to keep specific conversations confidential, and every time he assures me that what he and I speak about IS confidential, but even still I ask him. I fear that eventually my asking him to keep conversations confidential, will be perceived as distrust on my part.
Is control a part of this "trust issue" as well? I can't control what he does with the information/my vulnerability, and I want to control that SO BAD. I'm guessing that part of trusting/being vulnerable, is relinquishing that control (which is really hard for me).