I'm reminded of a comment about AA in a book I read. "If you come to an uncharted minefield and see footprints, you had better follow them--very closely."
Don't get so wrapped up about saying you're an alcoholic or holding hands while praying or any of the other trivial issues that seem to irk you. You're tilting at windmills here. None of this stuff is really important.
What is important is that you focus on what's being said in the meetings. You'll find that there's usually a pretty good reason for the suggestions others will give you. They've all been there, done that, and have the T-shirt to prove it. It'll start to make sense if you give it a chance.