They don't go to AA because AA works.
They crow about 'it's just not me' 'I don't believe in that' 'it's a cult/religion' ....
all of which is bs.
the truth is they know AA is where the solution is.
I met a woman back when I was night auditor of a hotel
this woman was almost a stage-played stereotype of
the typical uptown new york 'theatre-type'
she told me she was married to a semi-famous actor
who spends all the big bucks he makes
by bouncing in and out of rehabs.
she said if her family wasn't already rich
she'd have divorced him long ago.
he also refused AA because he was 'famous'
and couldn't 'be seen as' ... 'one of those people'...
if they don't want it they don't want it.
I don't know if maybe I've missed something in the thread
and I apologize if I have
but you have no obligation
to continue funding this man
either the addiction or the recovery.
did I miss something
or did you already know that?
the more 'well' we get
the more easily the word 'no' becomes final.
no one can ever beat the price of AA
that's why the go to such great lengths
to downplay it.