Oh man, and here I was thinking that I was getting bled dry more than others! Makes $20k for lawyers seem like a drop in the bucket. Oh wait, probably another $30k-40k in alimony. Oh, and the $6k we paid for rehab. And the $5k on hospital bills. And...ah, whatever.
I've tried more than once to encourage AW to select providers that are in-network on the insurance. Not once has she selected a psychiatrist, counselor, rehab facility, or other doctor that has been in-network. In the big picture, though, the best ROI is anything that leads to lasting sobriety, or to getting the alcoholic out of the financial picture.