For me, it was my divorce lawyer's retainer.
The two stints in inpatient rehab (including IOP,) cost me roughly $17K out of pocket.
The alimony will run $100K
Two mortgages I took in the divorce settlement, one on a rental I can't sell in this economy, one I currently reside in, both upside down: $425K
The peace of mind knowing he won't destroy me financially, mentally or spiritually:
Priceless.
Just my proverbial 2c. I had no earthly idea a relationship with an alcoholic (who didn't drink at all when we started dating so many years ago) would be so friggin expensive. And that's just the monetary - not to mention the time, energy and angst.