This is so hard...nothing makes me more angry than someone acting a fool in front of my kids, especially if they could in any way perceive it might be my fault. I like LexieCat's plan. I often wonder how I would handle this situation...sometimes I wonder if it is reasonable to expect to work out separating from/divorcing an alcoholic in a rational manner. I mean, if we were contemplating separating from/divorcing someone whose brain was actually functioning at full capacity, it would be different. We could actually expect coherency when discussing all the things that go along with such a decision. I kind of think if it gets to that point for me, I'll have to get everything into place financially, etc. behind his back (easy in my situation, not the same for everyone, I know) and then just move out while he's at work one day. No warning, just see you later...NOT!