This is a very good thread. Stilllearning pretty much said it for me. Even if someone had told me what life would be like I would not have thought it was possible. Three months into our marriage people that I had not seen in a while were telling me how happy they were for me and I thought, "If you only know how miserable I am." And yet I hung on for over six years.
Please think long and hard before you marry this man. If you think there are problems now you most likely have only seen the tip of the iceberg.