redbud, it was and is therapy, the steps, and this forum that have helped me make it through everything. I had multiple outlets when I was frustrated with my daughter, and I needed every one of them. I intellectually understood what she was dealing with (TBI's and her disease), but she didn't. She knew she was an addict and all that it entailed, but didn't want to accept that something else was wrong in her brain. It took a lot of clean time and therapy before she would.
I was always juggling how to help her while not enabling her, and how to take care of myself so I wouldn't direct my frustrations
at her. I can't tell how many times I had to apologize to her
Everyone in my family has the same outlets but it's up to each individual to use them. My husband won't use any of the resources because, up until recently, he refused to admit he had a problem dealing with other people's issues.