Hi concernednurse!
I don't think its mean at all. I think its honest. I also think many of us have thought this very thing in the past, and many lurking out there reading our posts are thinking this right now. The "yes, but..." syndrome. Its part of the process of recovery...learning that we are so focused on what could be that we neglect to look at what is. I look back and wonder what I was thinking...everything was perfect except for the drinking...no it wasn't! It couldn't be! Yeesh I was so naive.
Life is not perfect, and I am not either. My marriage won't ever be perfect. That's unrealistic. So for today, I accept things as they are and make the best of it.
I think you sound very healthy...good for you!
~T