Oh girl! I too married and A. I knew he drank too much, I knew I didn't like.... I did it anyway. I believed the "it's gonna change we when are married".... Guess what it didn't! I called off the wedding the days the invitations went out. I cancelled everything. And then 2 weeks later went thru with it. He was gonna change, one AA mtg, etc. I wanted to be married so bad.... Now 8 mths into it, guess what? He is still an alcoholic. I made him move out 3 weeks ago. I am giving it 90 days to see change. If I could do it over again, I would not have married him. I love him, I do not love his alcoholism. I am getting better though. Educate yourself! I read all the time. Read Codependecy No More, go to some Al-Anon meetings. I wish I would have. I thought mine would be different, I thought I could change mine.... Realizing now the only one I can change is me. Please just educate yourself. Best of luck