Gosh. I've posted in here already and coming back and reading other responses, I'm seeing so much good stuff. I don't want to play this game but if only I had postponed my marriage due to questionable alcoholic issues, I'm betting my current AW would have self destroyed and revealed her "true" demons. I wouldn't have had to do it. She would do all the heavy lifting for me.
Again. That's not the case with me now so please do read these responses. Sleep on it. Come back and read them again.
I think you're very wise for coming here this early in the game.