Welcome sunwoman6,
So true that we can't fix any of it.
I ended up picking my son up after this incident. I took him to the hospital and then he went to rehab. A few months after that I put him out homeless and he has been on his own since. I don't tolerate the blaming and anger any longer. Our phone coversations have been positive 99% of the time.
Sounds like you are setting a boundary for your own good. It just might help your son at the same time.
I'm sorry you have to go through this. Please feel free to hang out here with all these other wonderful people. It helps when others understand.
Hugs,
MG