Why do you think Alanon isn't for you, and why are you tired of hearing people say you need to work your recovery?
The reason I ask is that normally when a lot of people are telling somebody to work on their own recovery it's because they are exhibiting one or more traits of somebody who has been affected by somebody else's drinking. These traits are not always apparent to those of us exhibiting them-- I know they weren't apparent to me when I was, and aren't always apparent to me when I manifest them today.
What I will share with you is what you said below.
You support his recovery efforts as he is very involved in AA. This is a perfect example of what somebody who is not working their own recovery does and says.
It's not your job to support his recovery efforts. His recovery is his job 100 percent and your job zero percent.
Your job is you.
Take care, take what you want, and leave the rest.
Cyranoak
Originally Posted by
nbunderstanding 
I support his recovery efforts as he is very involved in AA.
I don't feel that Al-Anon is for me but I am tired of hearing people say I need to work my recovery.