Thank you all for the welcome, writing all that then rereading it brought tears to my eyes.
I would speak with the social worker, but I am afraid that they will take my children.
Last year when we were involved with them, one of the "rules" that they had written on the "family care plan" was that if AH was to start drinking again then I needed to remove him from the home or they would remove my children. (he was sober for the whole 6 months they babysat us but then started up drinking again very shortly after he knew they were out of the picture).
Part of me thinks its NONE of thier business, but then I remind myself that they have made it thier business because they want to look out for the best interest of my children and so do I.